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Thanksgiving: An attitude of gratitude

Thanksgiving is much more than a big meal with family and friends. It's a time to reflect on, and be thankful for, all of the good things you have. Even with all of the uncertainty and turmoil in the world, each and every one of us has much to be thankful for.
It's important to be grateful, not just on Thanksgiving, but each and every day.

Rather than lamenting what you feel is lacking in your life, begin each new day by developing an attitude of gratitude. Every morning, recharge your appreciation. Be happy for everything there is, not upset over what you feel is missing.
If you have enough to eat, a place to live, a way to get around, people who care about you, or people you care about, then you are wealthy.

Focus on all positive aspects of your life and take nothing for granted.
Dreams of the future shouldn't diminish appreciation for the present. If all you do is concentrate on what you want, you won't enjoy today. Don't be jealous of others; what they do or have has no bearing on you.

You can feel bitter or resentful for a variety of reasons. Perhaps you feel something is missing from your life, things aren't going your way, or you have been treated unfairly. You may wonder, "why do these things always happen to me?"
When life's problems dominate your thoughts, you may start to resent those who appear to be better off. If only you had more money, more time, a bigger house, a different car, a different job, a different boss, or husband/wife, or had picked a different career, etc.

Once your attitude becomes one of deficiency instead of abundance and appreciation, you can become overwhelmed by feelings of frustration and feel like a victim. As this happens, a consuming vicious cycle starts.

Being bitter or resentful blows situations out of proportion. People who are bitter frequently find that their situations deteriorate and their mental and physical health decays.

It's difficult, if not impossible, to achieve your goals while you are bitter or resentful. Regardless of what challenges might befall you, bitterness makes finding solutions much more elusive.

There is no point to feeling bitter since it accomplishes nothing, harms you and makes things worse. Filling yourself with gratitude on a daily basis makes you feel good, while driving out negative feelings.

Begin your practice of gratitude each morning as soon as you wake. If it helps, make a written list of all things you are grateful for. Read your list every day. As you do this, you will build and reinforce your attitude of gratitude. Simply, don't waste any time with what you feel you don't have and keep things in perspective.

Don't be consumed by your problems, there is always a solution and by maintaining an attitude of gratitude, you allow your mind to devise a resolution for your circumstances.

Make everyday a day of Thanksgiving and you will be amazed how much better your life will become.

Bryan is a self-development expert, syndicated columnist, and professor. He is the author of "Dare to Live Without Limits."  Visit for more information.


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