Why is it we spend the pre-kids era of our lives thinking of how
great it would be to have a kid? And why is it that when we
have our first kid, we think of how great it would be to have
another? Then we do, and we discover the chaos, mental and physical
stress associated with having kids and how care-free our lives
really were before we made the decision to have kids. The truth is:
having kids is enough to put one in the funny farm.
Seriously… I'm not the first or only mom to admit that we feel
like we're chickens running around with our heads chopped off. We
spend 24 hours a day responding to our babies' cries, trying to
figure out what he or she wants or needs and just praying that our
little one will be satisfied long enough for us to get off our feet
before the next wail of tears begins telling us we still haven't
met their expectations. It's like living with your boss 24/7; even
when you go to the bathroom, bathe, and (maybe even) get some
Yet, at some point during our days, we're struck with a bright
idea that adding another little one to our days of chaos will make
our lives complete!
Rather, the invited company adds to the chaos furthering our
mental and physical stress sending us directly, first class, to -
you guessed it - our new home on the funny farm! With a 2-year-old
crying ballistic ally as if the whole world is going to end if she
doesn't have a bottle of milk, and a 2-month-old wailing at the top
of her lungs if her crib mobile isn't turned on, it's no doubt that
my feet feel like I've just run a marathon, and it's only 9
Plain and simple, being a parent is exhausting, both mentally
and physically. One has to be in multiple places at the same time,
with two sets of arms operating at the speed of lightening (don't
forget the third set reserved for clean-up on aisle 12!) and a pair
of feet enabled with turbo power that you can adjust throughout the
day. And don't forget to wear that loving smile.
The loving smile tells them they are loved and that we don't
have a care in the world about anything else. (Except when we're
running behind and remember the dishes haven't been washed for a
few days and are overflowing in the sink, last week's laundry is
still sitting in the clothes dryer and the floor hasn't been swept
We can't help but think of the pre-kids era of our lives and
reminisce of how care-free they really were - in a different sort
of way. We didn't have anyone else to worry about and didn't feel
as though we were going crazy every second of the day, or did we?
While we're quick to agree with the latter, we also realize our
kids have made us decide what really matters in life.
While late-night feedings and diaper changes can feel like
arduous tasks that will never end, I know these times will be
short-lived and I can look forward to a time when they become
independent. Even though I wouldn't trade these moments for
anything, it's true, I look forward to when I can finally move out
of the funny farm.